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This post and it’s title refer to a post that Steve Pavlina made on his blog quite a long time ago. The premise of said post is very simple: It shows you how you can find your life’s purpose, the reason why you are here in the first place and the answer to the question about what you are supposed to do in your life. And all you need is a pen, some paper and about 20 minutes of your time.
Pretty intriguing, eh? Read on, it gets better.
You’ll find the link to that Pavlina blog post right below the video. I believe you can get a lot out of the little exercise described in that post. All the video does is give you a very brief primer that will allow you to get the most of it.
So, watch this short video and then follow the link below it.
Here’s the link to Steve’s post: Find Your Life Purpose in 20 Minutes
Below, you can find a short account of my personal experience from doing that exercise. I suggest that you do it yourself, before coming back and reading about this. If you do the exercise without prior expectations, you’ll get better results.
I want to keep this short and to the point, so let me tell you two things straight away: The exercise took me almost two hours to finish and I didn’t find what I would describe as my life’s purpose.
What I did find, was the most important sticking point for me; the largest obstacle I need to overcome in order to move forward in the direction I am supposed to move.
The writing process itself was very interesting to me. I made sure that I allowed myself to write absolutely anything that popped into my head. Some things were random, some were silly or weird, some were repetitions of what I had already written. I never stopped to judge, I simply kept on writing as quickly as I could.
Especially in retrospect, looking through the answers I had written down, it seems like there were some thoughts lodged in my head that I had to get out. For example, there was a phase when all the answers I wrote resembled the kind of things other people might expect of me, rather than things I really want for myself.
It felt like I was getting rid of these ideas that were forced onto me by other people, by writing them down.
I never broke down and cried, which should have happened at some point, according to Steve’s post. However, it was clear that I had come to the end of the exercise because after almost two hours of non-stop writing, every single answer I wrote was basically the same thing and I could not think of anything else to write anymore.
My final answer was that what I need to do is become authentic.
It was more elaborate than that, but the core of the message was that I need to become 100% authentic and express this authenticity. Express this personality that I have bottled up inside myself somewhere and share it with the world.
The things I am truly good at are no use to anyone if I keep them (and myself) to myself.
Since I did this exercise, a few years have passed. I have not yet become truly authentic and more importantly, I have not yet managed to truly express myself. But I’m steadily improving. Who knows? Maybe it’s a question of persistence, maybe there’s a breakthrough experience I need to have. Whatever it is, I will keep at it and keep trying to improve.
This was a very personal post. I don’t know if there is any value in this for you, but I’m sure there is value for you if you do the exercise described in Steve’s post. And one way or another, this post will do no one any good if it’s just kept sitting on my hard-drive.